Two Are Better Than One

I use to go through life thinking it was good to do it alone. I had this misconception that girls were drama. I grew up the only girl with two older brothers. I spent my time burning ants with a magnifying glass, and feeding insects to the spiders. I played with frogs, in dirt, with wrestle mania action figures, video games and owned one barbie doll. I had friends of course but never felt safe to be myself with them. I was always concerned with what they would think of me if I liked something they didn’t. I was too worried with trying to keep up with them that I never let myself be a part of them. Don’t get me wrong I have had some great friendships along the way. But I never knew how to make those friendships life long. I didn’t know how to reach out to people or let people in. I had a wall up and quite frankly Im still not sure I am good at this.

My husband on the other hand has so many friends. We are complete opposites. He is a social butterfly and I am a recluse. I would much rather spend quality time with myself, not necessarily at home though. We joke and say everyone is his best friend. He keeps his relationships real and puts in the effort. Through the years I have watched him invest in people and maintain solid foundations with his relationships. I have always admired that. He has taught me along the way how to invest and why it’s important. We were not meant to do this life alone. God created Eve for Adam because he knew that man should not live alone. In Ecclesiastes it talks about needing each other to help pick them up when they fall (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12). Just like a marriage friendship needs work, time, and communication. You have to put in the work.

I spent too many years trying to do life alone. Yeah I did it, but what could I have been or done had I had people around me believing in me, believing with me and fighting for me. You don’t need to surround yourself with a huge army. You need people who you can be transparent with. David had Jonathan. Naomi had Ruth. James, Peter and John were closest to Jesus. Relationships are the foundation of following Christ. We must have a deep and rooted foundation in Christ first. Then God will bring the right people into your life. Some will come and go, and some will be so important that you invest and make them last a life time.

It is the importance of relationships that I decided to start this blog. I went through a time of loneliness and experienced anxiety for the first time. I didn’t know who to talk to because I felt ashamed for having felt that way. I tried to hide it and act as though everything was fine. The stage of life I was in really made me feel like I couldn’t talk with anyone. I finally told my husband after I could not take the thoughts running through my mind anymore. I knew I needed to let someone know. After fighting off the enemy and investing my time with God and growing deeper roots in Him is when I realized no one should do this alone. We must first be solid in our love for God and believe in His love for us. He Loves us! He only wants the best for us. He will place people in your life that will pick you up, that will stand back-to-back with you to fight whatever it is you are fighting.

There are too many examples in this world that show us broken relationships. We need to stop looking at the surface and start looking at what’s underneath. Not everyone will fit perfectly with you, understand that. But those who do, take the time to invest in them and keep them close. I am still a work in progress with this. It’s just hoping I survive the conversation without making anyone feel awkward with my awkwardness. I promise you that whatever you are going through, someone has gone through it before you or alongside you, and that is my vision for Watered & Rooted. To create an atmosphere of authenticity. A community of women who are like minded who are here to help pick each other up. We fight against the darkness of this world. Not against each other (Ephesians 6:12).

Psalm 1:3 is the scripture that I feel is the foundation of this all. We need to be firmly planted. And I feel that through God’s word and through the right people, we are the stream of water that help us grow and extend our roots. We have to be oaks of righteousness, a splendor displayed of God’s glory. Don’t waste time doing it alone or hiding your shame. Build relationships, feed them, nurture them and watch them grow into their beautiful unique selves.

If you need prayer for anything please contact me, send me an email. It would be my pleasure to stand in agreement with you.